hopeless to change the world

Ever met someone that has a completely different view of life and the world that you're used to? Or maybe I am the one that has the different view. I feel that people are generally good, though there are many many selfish folks out there, a lot of it depends on the people you get close to in life and who you let into your little circle. How do I explain what I mean... let's see.. when his closest friends screw him over or blow him off he gets angry, rants about it to everyone around him for a week and then forgets about the problem and becomes best friends again because he just thinks that's how people are, they screw each other over sometimes and help each other out sometimes... because he's never really had the kind of true, patient, loving friends that I've had...in fact he thinks that anyone that is such a good friend with me must want something. How can you live like that? assuming that everyone is out to get something from you and you can't trust anyone? how do you become that type of person? he thinks that i've had a powder puff life because I think the way i do, but i've been screwed over a few times too... i've learned lessons and i've become a good judge of charactar. ..and when something happens i dont sulk over it to the point that i say i hate life and everyone in it. I accept that is just what happens sometimes and I move on...and make a mental note not to let that happen again. It doesn't cause a grudge against humanity. But I think the problem is that he has only been around people that are...well...in this life only for themselves so he feels that everyone is that way...but when he sees some of my friends and calls them dorks or hippies or whatever, he doesn't understand that I don't judge or label them as anything other than human beings... and that maybe they seem like misfits to him just because they don't know much about wine and food and pretending to be classy. but the are real, genuine... less than half of those "classy" people have true class... because true class also involves respect for others and the ability to be genuine.

so i guess what i am trying to say to myself here is that he assumes that everyone is bad and has bad intentions even if they are different type of person than he considers his "friends" to be... how do you get past that?

...and yet he still lets certain people walk all over him because he feels it's his cultural duty out of promises made and broken... his ex wife calls him gay and he still buys her a laptop computer, pays the mortgage on the house, repairs her car... pretty much she lives for free and works for a guy that is fucking her brains out on all of those overnight trips he takes her on.. must be the life for the princess... have your ex completely support you while you have sex with whoever you want then laugh at him behind his back... you put yourself in these situations mister, you've got nobody to complain to until you figure out how to stand up for yourself.

so then, how do you make someone understand life... is it impossible to show someone how their life looks from an outside perspective? i wish someone would tell me how mine looks from an outside perspective... thing is i don't even have friends anymore because i got so involved in his life and this job.... there's no room for anything else. who am i anymore? maybe i should get back to focus on that instead of worrying about his problems...because ultimately he is the only one that can fix himself...and he has to be ready to do it.